How heavy does our baggage have to be before slowly letting it go?
It’s going to take a while and it’s not going to be easy.
Every year, we tend to make New Year’s resolutions to change for the better. But sometimes, we carry the hurt or traumatic experience that happened a long time ago in family, friends, work, and relationships. Unknowingly, we pass on this traumatic experience to other people without thinking that you’ve not only hurt yourself but others.
This is called emotional baggage.
But why do we find it difficult to let go of our emotional baggage despite the pain?
We have seen and felt the pain that changed how we view things. Sometimes, we feel that things around us changed but really, it was we who did. The experience could be a blessing in disguise that we can mature from but it can also become the reason for one’s grudge and trauma.
It is a constant reminder of our past
When we hold onto an object, we remember its presence. Holding and dwelling on your trauma is a reminder of a bad experience. You don’t want to forget what you’ve been through and you don’t want it to happen again.
We became used to the feeling
Because we’ve been feeling it for so long, we forget that the feeling should only be temporary. Sometimes, you listen to those inner demons and label yourself negatively. We don’t notice that the pain is slowly breaking us apart until we become fragile.
We are afraid of getting hurt again
Since we carry that reminder with us, we are reminded of the bad experience. By constantly remembering this, we think it can happen again. We think that our pain will “protect” us.
To what extent does this baggage protect and remind us of our pain?
Sadly, it can affect how we treat the people around us. Unknowingly, we might treat them as our enemies when really they want to help and be by our side. Sometimes, we push them away thinking that we might hurt them or because they’re not the same person they were before. Take for example a friend who just constantly reminds you to take care of yourself but because of a bad experience, you take this as a sign of being controlling and lash out at them.
Worse, it will affect how we treat ourselves. Our mental and emotional state affects our whole being. Because of that pain, we have a difficult time moving on and choosing to be happy.
We cannot blame people if they carry their baggage especially if it’s something heavy and personal. We all have our own baggage. It is up to us whether we let it go or carry it with caution and not dwell in it.
Can we really let go of our emotional baggage?
Yes, we can. But you decide if you want to let go or bear with that heaviness forever. That past is just a fraction of what happened to you but not totally who you are.
Dwelling on the past can affect you in every possible way. It is easier said than done but carrying that pain can trap and hurt you.
You don’t have to wait until your baggage is heavy before letting go. Slowly losing your hold of it, you’ll feel the weight getting lighter and lighter every day.
We cannot erase the past but we can change our present which can lead to a better future.
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